Sunday, January 9, 2011

How losing weight has changed me.

Friday was my nursing school orientation and holy geeze was it amazing.  I always knew I would be a nurse "someday" but I honestly never planned on prioritizing enough to have that happen before I was 50.  I never ACTUALLY believed I would be willing to make a commitment like this.. to myself or anyone else.. and this is what has brought me to blog today. 
Losing weight has always been about MORE to me then a number on a scale.  A LOT of my drive came from the concept of FINISHING SOMETHING FOR ONCE!!  I have always been a slacker when it comes to committing.  I had a list of obstacles a mile long and that list kept me from achieving much of anything.  Because I accepted them as a reality of my defeats.  And I was okay with that. 
When I committed to 5 months of sticking to something, I never dreamed it would change me completely.  I wasn't even sure that I was actually going to lose a single pound.. I was just insistent that I was going to START and FINISH this competition.  In fact, the lack of support from everyone around me [when I first started] only solidified my devotion to do it.  Because in the past I had proven myself incapable of following through.  If you are just starting your journey, know now that even though your loved ones WANT you to succeed... they don't actually believe you will.  If your significant other doesn't seem to be jumping for joy that you are taking on a healthier life.. it's because he/she doesn't actually think you are going to stick to it and he/she does not want to be in trouble for anything they may have said to encourage you when you fail.
After losing my first 50 lbs I wrote this
So today.... 2 years after I started.. here is a new list.  A list of things I've learned and overcome on this crazy journey that started out as a 5 month commitment and completely changed my life!

1. Commitment:  I have learned that I have the ability to fully commit to things.  I do not just take on things with a hope of survival, I take them on determined to thrive.

2. Word elimination:  I no longer use words like can't, want, try.  These words sound like fluff to me.  You will not find me saying "I want to lose 10 lbs!" BECAUSE  I know I CAN do it. I WILL lose 10 lbs, end of discussion. ;) (P.S. I'm down 4!!!!)  I know that you all know that when your children/friends/spouses say the word "try" it means they will do it if it is convenient for them.  DON'T TRY!!  DO IT!!

3.  Vision:  My vision no longer seems like an unattainable dream... it is reality.  I no longer long to be this or that.. I see what I want and I GO FOR IT!!  Life is too short to live in a world of ambitions and goals.  I stopped making goals a long time ago.. I make commitments and it is ON!

4. Overcoming fear:  I've never been overly outwardly fearful but I have ALWAYS been afraid of failure.. in fact, fear of failure is why I never lost weight in the past (I was overweight for 9 years).  It's also why I never finished a single college level class (after marriage) and why I NEVER EVER would have started nursing school or anything else for that matter.  I was terrified of failure... and now... well, failure isn't an option.  Sound cliche?  I know... but honestly IT'S TRUE!  I do not fear failure at all because I refuse to go there.

5.  Fear of hard work:  Umm.. yes.. this would have been the definition of me in the past.  As a general rule of thumb I lived by the concept that "if it doesn't come easy to me... it isn't worth the effort."  WOW!!  I have done a complete 180 on that one.  I LOVE hard work now.  I love to do things that others think are impossible.  I love to go the extra mile [or 2] because I have learned how to push myself beyond what I ever thought was possible.  I am not afraid to work hard, I only fear complacency now.

6.  Overcoming obstacles:  Somewhere along this journey I redefined my obstacles as my EXCUSES.   I finally embraced the truth, that the mile long list of obstacles was a list of things I ALLOWED to get in the way of my success.  I never really made a list in the beginning.. in my archives I found this and it truly is a list of everything I let define me for a VERY long time.  On Friday, the director of my school asked us to shout out answers, of things that might get in the way of our success in the program... and I just couldn't contribute.  I refuse to believe that there are obstacles that can get in the way of my success... because I WILL NEVER LET THAT HAPPEN AGAIN!! 

7.  Accountability:  I just joined Lisa's biggest loser challenge.  I'm sure there were people in the room who seriously couldn't figure out what I was doing there.  So here is my confession to all of you.  I need to lose weight I have gained in the last 4 months.  No excuses.  Life is always hard.  I just let myself lose a little bit of fire.  I don't want to lose this weight because I think I look bad (because I look just fine) I want to lose it because I DON'T want to become complacent and have these 10 lbs turn into twenty and so on and so forth until I'm back to where I started. 

6 comments:

Kristi said...

Awesome blog post, Karilynn. You have great writing skills and your wording couldn't have been said any better. Such realizations & wisdom you've gained through the weight loss experience. It sure has changed so much in your life. Very inspirational!

Tammy said...

Love it! Thanks for sharing!

Mindy said...

In tears, as I am so often when i read your blog, I say thank you. Again! Thank You for this blog and for everything else.

You're amazing and a HUGE part of why I am where I am and where I will be a year from now. You're an amazing woman Karilynn.

Spitfire said...

Hi Karilynn.
Can I just say how much I LOVE your attitude! You have spunk, and I think a lot of people lack that.

So, I am applying for nursing school next week. I didn't know you were into nursing! I've been out of the blogging loop for a while now.
I did get accepted in the Personal Support Worker course but I decided the scope of practice and the work opportunities were too limited for me. I had been tossing around nursing school for a while, and now, if I get accepted, I will embark on a 2 year course...fear was stopping me. Funny how that little word can have such a hold on people, keeping them from doing things that they are capable of.

Proud of you!!
xo
Lisa

Jen said...

I love love love reading your blog! Mindy is totally my inspiration in this journey, and I know a lot of why she got started and kept moving was you, so I'm soooo glad that you were there to help kick her in the behind and that came down the line, AND I get to follow you're journey too! I love reading stuff like this, because so often I forget why I'm doing this, and it's good to look at the specifics of what in my life is better (other than smaller pants!) because of the journey that I'm on, and even though I'm only halfway, I could easily write a list like this of all the changes, and can't wait to do a goal weight version like yours. Thanks so much for sharing and being such an inspiration to so many! you rock!

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